Finding Our Voices

Finding our voice after childhood abuse is a powerful – indeed empowering – step forwards in healing.

The past two weeks have seen the IICSA (Independent Inquiry Child Sexual Abuse) investigate abuse within specialist music schools and some residential schools.  My former school, Chethams, being one of those investigated.

https://www.iicsa.org.uk/investigations/sexual-abuse-in-residential-schools?tab=hearing

 

The accounts at the inquiry, and further accounts related by former students are harrowing to read.

https://ianpace.wordpress.com/2019/10/10/chethams-alumni-memories-and-reflections-following-the-iicsa-hearings/

Both links carry major trigger warnings – you may find the content deeply upsetting.

 

It has been a triggering, upsetting time for many.

Memories locked away for decades. Memories perhaps holding shame.  Fear.

Yet Shame and Fear can both be broken – and they are broken by speaking out, by looking people in the face and seeing acceptance.

We are not what happened to us in any way. The guilt lies solely with predators, perpetrators – and with the multitude who turned a blind eye.